End Domestic Violence and Elder Abuse 

Healing of the Nations Ministries actively  encourages everyone to learn about and support the ongoing work to address and support the national issue of domestic violence,sexual abuse of adults and minor children. Adult abuse and abuse of the elderly. 
 Awareness, perception, definition, and documentation of domestic violence differs from country to country and era to era. Only about a third of the cases of abuse are actually reported in the United States and the United Kingdom.  Domestic violence is a serious public health problem affecting more than 32 million Americans or over 10% of the U.S. population.
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, reach out. There is help available.
When people think of domestic violence we get the mental picture depicted of a woman who has been physically assaulted. Not all abusive relationships involve violence.  Just because your not being physically assaulted doesn't mean that you are not in an abusive relationship.  There are many women and men who suffer from emotional or psychological abuse which is sometimes even more destructive than physical abuse.  These types of abuse are often overlooked and minimized in the minds of those who are being abused.

 

 
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship that are used to gain or maintain power or control over the other intimate partner.
Domestic violence can be physical,sexual, emotional, economic or psychological.
These Actions or threats of actions use behaviors that intimidate,manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize,coerce, blame, hurt, injure, or wound the other partner. 
 
Each year hundreds of thousands of older persons are abused, neglected, and exploited. Many victims are people who are older, frail, and vulnerable and cannot help themselves and depend on others to meet their most basic needs. Abusers of older adults are both women and men, and may be family members, friends, or “trusted others.”
In general, elder abuse is a term referring to any knowing, intentional, or negligent act by a caregiver or any other person that causes harm or a serious risk of harm to a vulnerable adult.
Elderly woman Neglect
Legislatures in all 50 states have passed some form of elder abuse prevention laws. Laws and definitions of terms vary considerably from one state to another, but broadly defined, abuse may be:
  • Neglect - the failure by those responsible to provide food, shelter, health care, or protection for a vulnerable elder.
  • Exploitation - the illegal taking, misuse, or concealment of funds, property, or assets of a senior for someone else's benefit.
  • Self-neglect – characterized as the failure of a person to perform essential, self-care tasks and that such failure threatens his/her own health or safety.

 

Most importantly, be alert. The suffering is often in silence. If you notice changes in a senior’s personality or behavior, you should start to question what is going on.

 

Remember, it is not your role to verify that abuse is occurring, only to alert others of your suspicions. Please visit the webpage What If I Suspect Abuse, Neglect, or Exploitation? to learn what you should do if you are concerned that someone you know is being abused.

 

 

Do you:

  • feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • feel emotionally numb or helpless?

 

 

Does your partner:

  • humiliate or yell at you?
  • criticize you and put you down?
  • treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
  • ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • blame you for his own abusive behavior?
  • see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Does your partner:

 

  • have a bad and unpredictable temper?
  • hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? 
  • threaten to take your children away or harm them?
  • threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  • force you to have sex?
  • destroy your belongings? 

Does your partner:

 

  • act excessively jealous and possessive?
  • control where you go or what you do?
  • keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
  • constantly check up on you?

All domestic violence victims,

                         have the right to:

 

  • Be treated with fairness and respect
  • Be reasonably protected from the accused offender
  • Be notified of court proceedings
  • Be present at all public court proceedings related to the offense, unless the court determines that testimony by the victim would be materially affected if the victim heard other testimony at trial
  • Confer with attorney for the Government in the case
  • Restitution
  • Information about the conviction, sentencing, imprisonment, and release of the offender
If you suspect that someone you love is being abused then its time that you speak up!   Don't hesitate and just tell yourself that nothing is wrong!  If you speak up and express your concern to them then this will let them know that you care and it may even save his or her life.  Talk to them in private and let them know about the signs that you are seeing that trouble you.  Tell them that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk about it. Remember that abusers are good at controlling and manipulating their victims. People who have been emotionally abused or battered are depressed, scared, ashamed and sometimes confused.  They need your help to get out because most of the time they have been isolated from their friends and family members.  By picking up and pointing out the warning signs you can offer your support and help them to escape an abusive situation and begin to heal.

 

( Healing of the Nations provides the above information as a free service not as a legal or attorney service.)